Being a parent is not always an easy job. Yes, it’s rewarding, and yes, there are moments when our children bring us absolute joy. Sadly, it’s not a perfect world and our children are far from perfect little angels, even if that’s what the grandparents tell anyone who will listen. They wear us down. They leech our time and energy until some days you’d give anything for just a little bit of guilt free time to do what you want to do.
Right now you may be feeling like your life is somewhat on hold. Your life revolves around your children. You look at photos of times long past, or they may just feel long past, of when you could come and go as you please with nothing holding you back. You might be feeling like this is it, what do I have to look forward to. You may even be worried that by the time your children are old enough to take care of themselves, you’ll be too tired or too old to reconnect with your spouse in a meaningful way. In a way, all of these may be true, but let’s be honest, would you really trade those wonderful little faces to have that freedom back?
Galatians 6:7-9 says, “Let him who is taught the word share in all good things with him who teaches. Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life. And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.”
This passage is speaking of cultivating heavenly fruit. It’s about focusing on that which will grow the Kingdom of God, rather than any sort of worldly gain. It’s about doing what is good. The Bible is pretty clear that the good work is all about serving others rather than wrapping ourselves in our fleshly desires (Galatians 5:13). I’d like to specifically focus on those that have given their lives in service to their children. Those raising the next generation if you will.
Being a parent is hard, but I encourage you to keep doing it well. I understand the desire to give up, to take the easy way out, to put our own desires first. However, I urge you, just as Paul did with the Galatians, do not lose heart. What you are doing with your children is good. Teaching them, spending time with them, helping them develop skills and understanding is great. I know it’s hard right now, in the moment. I know that if you have little children it may seem like there is no end in sight. You may be like us and drowning in dirty clothes and diapers. There is good news, however; it’s only for a season! There is an end and when it comes you will reap what you have sown into your children. It will be worth it in the end.
Good parents, continue to strive to be good parents. It may not seem like it now, you may even be battling with depression and it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t give up. Stay strong. Remember that our Heavenly Father has not given up on us and in turn we should not give up on our own children.